Couples Counseling

 

I provide marriage therapy and couples counseling for...

 

  • Affair recovery
  • Conflict resolution
  • Communication
  • Reconnecting
  • Extended family issues
  • Managing Anger
  • Invalidation

 

In couples counseling I help people with emotional awareness, healthy expression of feelings, communication, building intimacy/connection, coping skills, understanding/validation, life transitions, healing and forgiveness.  Together we will establish goals tailored to your relationship's specific needs.  Counseling can help - you and your partner need to be open to it, open to trying new ways, and being accountable for what you bring into the relationship.  It is time to take the gloves off, join hands, and get to work.  

I specifically work with couples in overcoming infidelity.  I know it can feel uncomfortable and even scary to share your relationship struggles with anyone.  When infidelity is involved everything is especially strained because it is such a large trauma and threat to a relationship.  I refer to this as Hurricane Infidelity.  If you are in the Houston area and infidelity has effected your relationship I would like to help you in couples counseling.  My Houston office provides a place for professional couples counseling with dignity. 

 

Discovering that your partner has been unfaithful is a traumatic experience that can leave you questioning every aspect of your relationship.  How will you ever be able to trust again?  Will you ever be able to get past this?  Should you stay or should you go?  It is normal to feel depressed, anxious, panicked, angry, and even numb or paralyzed.  You may also experience emotions, thoughts, or loss of control to a degree that you have never felt before; a terrifying experience.  You are not alone in this - I would like to help you.  My counseling office is located in West Houston off of the Katy Freeway.

 

I incorporate the works of research based practice in affair recovery.  In couples counseling you will learn how to cope with the thoughts and feelings you are experiencing, identify the type of affair and what it means, understand personal contributions to conflicts in the relationship, how to rebuild trust, how to form a deeper connection, how to avoid this ever happening again, and begin to heal.  This takes hard work from both of you.  In couples counseling the goal is to heal and maintain the relationship.  When I work with couples I want you both to feel equal; I do not take sides and I do not keep secrets.  I work with couples both together and individually as long as both parties are committed to restoring the relationship.  As long as you are committed to working on your relationship in counseling I ask that you not use divorce, seperation, or breaking up as a threat.  Frequently, I hear from couples that their discussions go much more smoothly and are more productive in my office as compared to home. 

 

I provide individual counseling and couples counseling for relationships that have been impacted by infidelity.  I understand that every relationship is unique.  You may be in the relationship right now or have separated or divorced and are trying to heal and move forward for yourself. 

 

If you are an adult having problems with trust or commitment in relationships and you know or suspect your parents were effected by infidelity I would like to work with you in counseling.  For most people, the relationship of their parents is the romantic connection they have been around the longest.  While growing up children/teens learn from their parents romantic connection during critical years for emotional and cognitive development.  Expectations of a relationship, ideas about gender roles, boundaries, communication, empathy, and expression of love are all shaped by family of origin.  Some studies suggest that people are more likely to cheat if either or both of their parents were unfaithful.  Through counseling I can help you to better understand yourself and your relationship.  If you want to maintain a relationship or are looking to get married I can help you to trust and set your lives together on a path for fidelity and longevity.  The counseling office is located in West Houston off of the Katy Freeway.

 

 

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Book recommendations

  • After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrams Spring
  • How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To by Janis Abrams Spring
  • Not "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley P. Glass and Jean Coppock
  • Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On - Together or Apart by Douglas K. Snyder, PhD, Donald H. Baucom, PhD, and Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD
  • His Needs Her Needs: Building an Affair Proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley, Jr.
  • Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
  • The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman
  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide From the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman and Nan Silver
  • Desperate Marriages: Moving Towards Hope and Healing in Your Relationship by Gary Chapman